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Today’s Quote

“And so with all things: names were vital and important.” –Algernon H. Blackwood


Time Check

 May 21, 1819 – Bicycles were first seen in the U.S. in New York City. They were originally known as “swift walkers.”

May 21, 1832 – The  Democratic Party held its first national convention.  

 May 21, 1881 – The American branch of the Red Cross was founded.


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May 21, 2012

Hey America, 


Once again sorry for the inconveniences with the website last week but I managed to fix them and I’m glad to have shared that Twain excerpt with you. Anyways I was talking to a friend this weekend and we were having an intriguing discussion about some things. One thing really resonated and that’s what I think we should talk about today.

I love meeting people. I’m definitely a social person and the fact that I get to know someone new makes my life more interesting. Yet, when I’m introduced to someone I always forget their name! 

I was telling my friend that it has become a serious problem. No matter who I meet I can never remember their name. It is literally this bad, you could tell me your name and in that same conversation I will have no idea what your name is… sometimes even initially after you say your name I will forget it. 

We suggested that it could be a listening problem. Maybe I don’t listen. Maybe I’m self centered and only focused on myself. But when I meet someone I’m actually the complete opposite. I want to soak up every ounce of new information about you. And after meeting someone I can recite just about everything that was said because I CAN focus on that. 

My argument was this: I tend to focus on the things that are important. I try and get to know people. However, I forget the name. Maybe I am wrong, but the bottom line is that it lead me to this realization. We have it all backwards! 

Think about it, why do we start with the name?

“Hi I’m Jeff.” 

Ok Jeff that’s great, but what does that tell me about yourself? I basically know the exact same amount of information about you now that I knew 10 minutes ago. And ten minutes ago I had no idea who you were! 

Is this a big deal? Probably not. I won’t exactly lose sleep over the topic, but it is symbolic of what kind of society we live in. Unfortunately it’s a superficial one. We live in a place that is more concerned with knowing your name than your actual personality. My friend proposed “What if we did it the other way, what if you met people based on their personalities and then they told you their name .”

And come to think about it that’s how it should be. I mean, I don’t really want to know you’re name yet because I don’t know if I want to know you yet. If you talk about what you’re like and I don’t like it….well then I won’t ask for your name…MAKES SENSE RIGHT?

Anyways, I don’t think a silly little blog will cure this epidemic of inconsiderate name sharing, but it does seem likely that we might be forgetting to concentrate on some of the things that matter. This proves true in all aspects of life. Imagine all the things we could be overlooking if we could neglect something as simple as personality…

So next time you forget someone’s name now you can say, “Sorry I was focusing on your wonderful personality” 🙂

*Warning: This excuse may not work with your wife.




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